week 39 \\ 2015: dating yourself

I know, reading the title makes it seem mad corny. But lemme explain:

So you’re single. You’re bored [which you never should be] and wanna get out of the house. All your people are either not in the mood or have plans. Or maybe you don’t have any people. Nonetheless, you are just itching to see that art gallery exhibition. Or new foreign film. Maybe you just wanna try a different eatery that your stomach’s been craving. These are all exemplary reasons to take yourself out. I have done the movies, coffee shops and art galleries alone, but the thought of sitting by myself in a crowded restaurant or concert still gives me a little anxiety. Maybe one day. Maybe. Probably..

The upsides to it?:

You get to do what you want. No compromising. I mean really, what other perks are there in singledom? 1.1 Stay out as late as you want without checking in. 1.2 [my favorite] You don’t have to share your delicious meal. 1.3 You choose where to go and when to leave. 2 You, if you’re somewhat of a traditional gentleman, will spend less money. 3 You face that anxiety of being seen out alone doing generally social, two+ persons activities. 3.1 You step out of your comfort zone, which is always a big plus. And who knows, 3.2 you might meet a potential boo or make a new friend while you’re out. 4 You get to brag to all the homies that dissed your invitation about what an amazing outing you had without them! haha! [also peep why you should date yourself before anyone else]

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When you do meet a new romantic interest, your world may get a little smaller and you’ll appreciate your space and solo dates/ventures. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for love, but I believe that you must maintain your identity within any relationship. You should have activities just for you, like a class or book club or whatever-things you enjoy doing solo-so there’s that balance of being alone and being together without too much of either. Going out and doing cool stuff with yourself [instead of dwelling on the fact that you’re single or no one is available to accompany you] is vital. Dating yourself builds character, helps you discover new interests + makes you more comfortable with you. And it will, most likely, create some great memories. Then later, when the universe finally responds to your openness for genuine, lasting love and companionship, you can share those experiences in a different way with your newfound crew or that special someone.

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11 thoughts on “week 39 \\ 2015: dating yourself

  1. “Dating yourself builds character, helps you discover new interests + makes you more comfortable with you. And it will, most likely, create some great memories. Then later, when the universe finally responds to your openness for genuine, lasting love and companionship, you can share those experiences in a different way with your newfound crew or that special someone.” Well said! 🙂

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  2. Point 2 “You, IF you’re somewhat of a traditional gentleman, will spend less money.” I emphasized the “IF” because it seems as though in most women’s minds that most men are not gentleman and that chivalry is completely gone in today’s society. I am completely thrown if my date even attempts to pay for anything. I’m like, “Ummm what are you doing? I’m a MAN! And I will take care of that!” But I don’t know maybe it’s just me. This was a great post though! I 100% agree with you that dating yourself is a great way to know thyself while having a blast at the same time.

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    1. That’s awesome, Cliff. I’m glad to hear it! I dunno about most women but I do know a lot of women are so independent these days that they do not ALLOW a man to be a man in the traditional definition. In that sense, I think some would-be gentlemen just said f it and adapted to this new age woman.

      I have not gone on a date in awhile but at least the last guy shared your same sentiments. As always, thank you for reading.

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  3. I am for this! I go out to eat by myself quite a bit and I don’t mind at all. I enjoy food and I can enjoy it sometimes even more by myself because there is nothing distracting me from all the wonderful flavors and textures of the food whereas when you’re in conversation with someone, you may not even notice all of the nuances of the food. And funny, one time and I think the only time, I went a concert by myself, I actually met a really cool person and we ended up being friends to this day. We go to a lot of shows together so you are totally right; you never know who you may meet while you’re out dating yourself!

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    1. I have yet to sit in a regular restaurant alone. You make a valid point of really enjoying the food without distractions. I never thought about it…………….. I wanna be like you when I grow up.

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          1. Oh sweet! I’ve never done that by myself but I came close to one time. I might end up doing that aroumd Valentine’s day since I’m single as fuck. lol

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