I know, reading the title makes it seem mad corny. But lemme explain:
So you’re single. You’re bored [which you never should be] and wanna get out of the house. All your people are either not in the mood or have plans. Or maybe you don’t have any people. Nonetheless, you are just itching to see that art gallery exhibition. Or new foreign film. Maybe you just wanna try a different eatery that your stomach’s been craving. These are all exemplary reasons to take yourself out. I have done the movies, coffee shops and art galleries alone, but the thought of sitting by myself in a crowded restaurant or concert still gives me a little anxiety. Maybe one day. Maybe. Probably..
The upsides to it?:
1 You get to do what you want. No compromising. I mean really, what other perks are there in singledom? 1.1 Stay out as late as you want without checking in. 1.2 [my favorite] You don’t have to share your delicious meal. 1.3 You choose where to go and when to leave. 2 You, if you’re somewhat of a traditional gentleman, will spend less money. 3 You face that anxiety of being seen out alone doing generally social, two+ persons activities. 3.1 You step out of your comfort zone, which is always a big plus. And who knows, 3.2 you might meet a potential boo or make a new friend while you’re out. 4 You get to brag to all the homies that dissed your invitation about what an amazing outing you had without them! haha! [also peep why you should date yourself before anyone else]
When you do meet a new romantic interest, your world may get a little smaller and you’ll appreciate your space and solo dates/ventures. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for love, but I believe that you must maintain your identity within any relationship. You should have activities just for you, like a class or book club or whatever-things you enjoy doing solo-so there’s that balance of being alone and being together without too much of either. Going out and doing cool stuff with yourself [instead of dwelling on the fact that you’re single or no one is available to accompany you] is vital. Dating yourself builds character, helps you discover new interests + makes you more comfortable with you. And it will, most likely, create some great memories. Then later, when the universe finally responds to your openness for genuine, lasting love and companionship, you can share those experiences in a different way with your newfound crew or that special someone.