When a man tells a Black woman that she looks mixed as a form of endearment, he is insinuating that her beauty comes from the (allegedly) non-Black part of her. All they’re effectively saying is: You’re too beautiful to just be Black.

Oh, but I am.

We aren’t beautiful in spite of our Blackness; we are beautiful because of it.

Shayla Pierce

[photo ©Djo, Bibi Kassembe]

17 thoughts on “Blackness

  1. All of my life I have gotten asked what my ethnicity I am and I’ve never been offended, probably because I’m oblivious to “racism” that isn’t so blatant. I don’t know…. I am who I am despite what my face shows or my skin displays. I originate from a multi-race background so diversity is what I’m accustomed too. The only important, more essential part of our identity is that who know who we are individually, not entirely just based on ethnicity or culture, but our higher true self. Beauty comes in all sorts of shapes, colors, and ideas. Anything can be beautiful, perspective is key. 🙂

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  2. We are all mixed with something. And, beauty is in the eye of the beholder… so love yourself, no matter your shade or ethnicity. Everyone has their preference of who they’re attracted to.


    1. Then can’t a woman just be pretty? If your last statement were true then my ethnic background should not matter enough to mention, right? I believe it’s a matter of fetishization and popularity, what’s trending. What men are often conditioned to like and prefer.

      Again, can’t a woman just be pretty? Not for being mixed or pretty for a dark girl. Just pretty.

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      1. Well, everyone should be free to have their type. Not all men are handsome… if we’re just talking physical attributes, height & weight usually matters to women. (Honestly speaking)
        But, the question is “what it is that makes her pretty?” And I feel that’s in the eye of the beholder.


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