I was making toffee the other day, dancing, listening to the cable music channel and you know they’re sneaking in more + more holiday songs here and there. Anyway, some Christmas songs are mad depressing, right?! I’m sure you can think of a couple, but this one in particular, I believe Gerald Levert sings something like “I don’t want no love songs. I don’t want no eggnog.” I was like damn. Talk about a mood killer. Life is pretty rough if you don’t even want eggnog, which has a reputation of uplifting spirits. Maybe he went vegan, I don’t know.
But I get it. I know many of us feel downhearted this time of year. Firstly, it’s cold. And maybe you can’t afford the gifts you want to give or that flight to visit your family. Maybe this is the first holiday season without your mom or lover. Maybe you just hate that capitalism gets all the limelight, year after year. Me too! Whatever the case, please take the time to recognize whatever triggers your unhappiness and ask yourself if it truly matters…I’ll give you a moment…
Of course you answered yes, self, it truly matters.
Why? Because your feelings are valid.
Good. Now that the facade has been removed and you can admit that thugs have feelings too, take time to heal. Make time to heal. Clear your mind. Take a breather. Be human. Cry, dammit! I know you’ve heard the term “you can’t serve from an empty vessel.” It’s true! You can only pretend for so long. And since we all can’t afford professional help and some of us prefer the “alternative” route, I’m sharing a list from Rasekhi Healing of a few pretty simple activities to fight those ill feels of depression:
- spend time in the sun
- eat fresh fruits + veggies
- put fresh flowers next to your bed
- dress in bright colors
- watch funny movies
- spend time with positive people
- meditate daily
- pray more
- chant or sing
- read spiritual or uplifting books
- do affirmations
- do something creative
- do something new
I’m a realistic optimist who is the worst at being serious [it’s a defense/coping mechanism, so “they” say], but I truly do care about each and every soul that I touch. [Yes, that includes you.] I don’t know where I’d be without my creative outlets, and for that reason alone, I empathize with those whose anti-depressant is suppressed or nonexistent. I know how that darkness feels and it is not a happy place. So, for whoever is ready and strong enough to be honest with themselves about their indescribable feelings of sadness, I hope this helps in your healing.