Explain your anger instead of just expressing it and you will find solutions instead of arguments. -unknown
True enough, but..
Remember as a kid your parents and teachers used to ask what’s wrong? when you were hollering and crying and carrying on? Until a certain age, they didn’t usually counter with anger, frustration or annoyance. Why don’t adults do that for other adults? From what I’ve observed, many people would rather be “right”, tell you you’re overreacting/dismiss your feelings, ignore you or solely seek to get the last word instead of genuinely trying to understand. Why is this? I know certain situations don’t call for it, but when they do, where’s the compassion?
I ask because this was me: shutting out a person because I’d felt shut out. Unfortunately, I was harboring this anger when I ran into him twice and projected this pain and confusion onto him before I sat in it, put my big girl draw’s on and released it. It’s peculiar (or is it?) how the universe aligned my release with him asking me to breakfast, apologizing and us completely clearing the air to move forward. We listened. We heard each other. This is what our parents encouraged my sister and me to do as youths: work it out between yourselves and stop acting like you hate each other because you know you don’t.
As I stated, some situations don’t warrant solutions, but the ones you cherish deserve explanation after an offense, compassion and a listening ear. I gave my friend and our friendship these things and I feel so much better.