HOW, Sway?! you ask. It’s possible. Anything is possible, really, with a healthy helping of recognition, action, consistency and determination.
Quick personal story on what prompted me to read the original post and share with y’all:
I had to drop a “friend” because I just no longer felt good in her presence, not even over the phone. I noticed that she’d continuously make comparison comments on weight, finances, workload, practicing art, attention from men/dating, petty nonsense, etc… And in ALL of these categories, I believe you should compare yourself to no one except the man or woman you were yesterday or this time last year. I mean really, what is the point otherwise? It took me years to drop her because of our lengthy “friendship”; I guess I felt obligated to someone solely because I used to enjoy her company and she’d been in my life a decade. But when I analyzed what she was contributing, it was a no-brainer to see she was a seasonal friend whose fair weather’d turned cold. Burrrrrr! Gucci!
So today I share 7 Powerful Behaviors to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Energy for the bulk of us who find ourselves in situations with folk that we can’t just walk (or slowly drift) away from- like annoying co-workers, inconsiderate customers or live-in family. Please take a look at the original post to read the author’s full details of each of the following behaviors and truths and keep in mind that my interpretations stem from dealing with negative, useless emotions, not positive:
1. Discover your unresolved issues. I find myself practicing this more and more. I ask myself why is this bothering me? Is it really an issue? If so, could I handle this differently?
2. Express yourself 100%. Holding back is like telling a half-lie, right? Not being completely honest ofttimes omits key parts to a story that may come back to bite you at the most inconvenient time.
3. You are not responsible for others. Word. In knowing that you have zero control of how people act toward you, you don’t take it personally nor do you absorb the other person’s energy.
4. Find your environment. This is not about where you are, but where you feel you are. Thoughts become things, so if your thoughts are based in worry, fear or doubt, guess where you at, playa…
5. Let go of the need to be validated. As the author mentions, your don’t need validation, just support. And even all the support in the universe won’t propel you if you don’t believe you’re worthy and deserving of greatness.
6. The Invitation. Whether we take responsibility or not, we attract everyone that crosses our path. We all use discernment on who to engage and who to avoid.
7. Do not pay attention. This has been the most difficult for me, but as I mentioned, thoughts become things. By giving attention to things you don’t want to happen, you give them all the power. Of course positive thoughts have the opposite effect and we ultimately decide what to feed and what to stifle. So pay attention to the things you want to flourish and succeed!
Would you add anything to this list?