We Need Better Sex Education {a repost}

Posted on by kelley

At maybe age 4, I remember my mom asking me if I knew what a penis was. And a vagina. I answered correctly so over the span of maybe three years, she gave my sister and me a few books on the subject of your changing body and how babies are made.  That was my version of “the talk.” Fast forward to the President Clinton scandal era and after hearing the word on the news every day, I ask “what’s infidelity?” I was met with a long, hard stare and told to look it up. Needless to say, my mom wasn’t the best teacher for sex education. She did sign the letter to allow me to attend sex ed classes though…

As a future parent, I hope to open up the dialogue early and keep it open so that my child will feel comfortable enough to come to me (or his father) with any questions or concerns. It really is a sensitive topic and one of those I believe should first be discussed at home or, at the very least, a welcoming environment.

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Ruvimbo Maria Kuuzabuwe discusses the need for better sex education at home and at school

via Silence isn’t good enough, we need better sex education — Media Diversified

19 thoughts on “We Need Better Sex Education {a repost}”

  1. Agreed. I’m from the south and my mom was very conservative. My dad actually had the sex talk with me and all he said was boys will do anything to get in your pants, there are things worst than pregnancy and be smart. My mom took me to get birth control at 16 and that was It. Anything I’ve learned came from sneaking to watch Real Sex on HBO. I have a 9 year old son and I old and I plan on giving him straight facts and not just teaching him about abstaining. If not he will go ask friends and would not be taught right

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    1. You sound like a good mom. I think a lot of kids go uneducated because parents refuse to start that dialogue. They’re doing their kids a disservice and could put a kid at risk for miseducation… or no sex smarts at all.

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  2. I never had anyone to give me the sex talk as a child or as a teenager. Most of what I learned were from peers or the media. Now that I have an eight-year-old daughter, certain things she would ask me and I always try to sit her down and tell her in the best way I can. I would rather I tell her, and with the help of sex-ed when that time gets here about sex. Some things I had to asked God to give me the strength. She asked all kinds of questions. 😬

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    1. Ha! Kids are curious about everything and, if in a comfortable environment, will ask for all the answers, won’t they.

      You sound like you have it handled, mom. I don’t think it’s a one-time talk, but and ongoing, open conversation that may save your kid from ignorance, abuse, pregnancy and disease.

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  3. You are lucky. For me i got to learn this things through teachers in primary school. I didn’t even know about periods! My parents have never had the sex talk with me and i will never do that to my kids

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    1. I understand that some kids went into that hormonally charged phase blindly, not knowing how to process their feelings and why these urges were taking over. But you sound like the kind of mom that wants to do better in those departments that your parents could have improved on. Good for you and your kids 🙂

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  4. yeah my mom with her christian ass, she didnt get into alot. but we have to realize that these intimate uncomfortable conversations need to be had, because what you dont want is your kid learning from a guy (who doesnt know a thing either) or from pornos or other things of that nature. i want to inform my kids of all information they need, and whatever they dont know, lets talk to a doctor, or read a book together ya know

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    1. Yes! You sound like you’ll be a great mom, understanding the importance of certain conversations first being had in the comfort of your own home with mom and/or dad who love you most and know you best. I mean you have kids out here saying they didn’t know they could get pregnant from having sex one time

      -_-

      THAT is reason enough to sit down and tell them what they NEED to know.

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  5. Totally agree. My parents were old school, born in the 20s. Daddy’s idea of sex ed was to purchase a grade b porn flick…35 mm by the way, and put it on the Kodak. I was fourteen at the time. The fifteen minute film was a white woman taking off her bra. She had huge breasts which I thought were the grossest things I’d ever witnessed. Daddy kept saying, “Look at them tits boy, look at them tits.” Hell, it’s a miracle I didn’t become a monk.

    I think now in the digital age where a seven year old can access online hard core porn, which we all know ain’t even close to the real thing, makes sex ed even more important than ever. Unfortunately we’re caught in this white denial society with a sex predator President and a puritan nazi Vice President. God help us all.

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    1. LOL wow! That sounds horrifying! I cringe at the thought of watching an intimate movie scene with my mom, but a porno?! I’d die.

      And I agree that this education is more important than ever for the same reasons you listed; the porn industry and even some music is very violent and objectifying of women and girls. And guys too! So if media is the only place you’re learning, you’re screwed (pun intended).
      Thanks for your comment, Paul.

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    1. Eh, I agree but you know not all parents are involved. Not all parents can or will give an informative sex talk. Not many parents can afford to send their kids to schools with African-centered curriculums or afford to stay home and school them.
      I’m thankful for my sex ed teacher because I learned a lot amongst my peers. And luckily I attended some pretty good public schools where I was able to thrive. Maybe I should just become a sex ed teacher!

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