Black women’s self-care is also subversive because to take care of ourselves means that we disrupt societal and political paradigms that say that Black women are disposable, unvalued. Indeed, people and things that aren’t cared for are considered expendable. So when we don’t take care of ourselves, we are affirming the social order that says Black women are disposable. – Shanesha Brooks-Tatum from Subversive Self-Care: Centering Black Women’s Wellness, 2012
What are you doing to care for yourselves, ladies?! Fellas? It’s silly to only expect that another take care of you–your lover, your mama, your employer, your son or whoever–when you don’t even demand that of yourself. Are you taking that necessary time to eat better, think positive and feed your soul? Are you weeding out toxic, draining tasks, people and environments? Are you meditating? Taking long showers? Journaling? Crying? Exercising? Engaging in meaningful sex and intimacy? Drinking enough water? Getting enough sleep? Staycationing?
Are you saying no, sticking up for yourself and speaking life into what you want and deserve?
Are you talking or writing out your troubles.. or burying them? Heck, just admitting and voicing that you need space, love, attention, a listening ear or a hug is self-care.
Society has it all wrong; Black women are valuable. Precious. Necessary. Amazing! Unfuckwithable. Don’t you think?