Stop postponing your happiness. If you only allow yourself to be happy when you hit “big life goals” you’re missing the point. The vast majority of your life consists of small everyday wins, not huge milestone achievements. Define what the process of winning looks like for you on a daily basis not just a specific […]
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You Are Not Helping People by Doing This: Making excuses for them Doing things for them Speaking to them negatively and calling it “tough love” Not holding people accountable Creating an environment where they have to keep coming to you for help Giving them the answers and not showing them how to find solutions on […]
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As defined in the dictionary: Discipline: the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience. This is probably what you think of when you hear the word discipline. Most often the term discipline is brought up when speaking about raising children, but today, I’m talking about…
Agreed. Practice makes progress.
Please give the original author some love: Discipline — Talking All That Jaz
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Your anger? It’s telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It’s telling you that something in your life is off balance. Your fear? It’s telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It’s telling you where you’re overextended and burnt out. Your feelings aren’t random, they are messengers. And if you want to get […]
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Relationships are like flowers, if you do not water them they will not grow. They take constant work and pruning, the moment you decide to sit back and get comfortable is the moment you start to starve your relationship of the vital ingredients it needs to grow and flourish. As a society we’ve almost accepted […]
You water me; I water you. It could all be so simple.. Please show the original blog some love 👉🏾 via Relationships are like flowers.. — Breathe Think Write Release
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There are some days that we don’t take a moment to reflect on exactly why people treat us the way that they do. Did we offend them? Did I say something or do something to make people think I am disrespectful? The look on my face often gives people the impression that I am aggravated […]
via @ShashaSelflove 9/11/18 – Owning It — @ShashaSelflove
Word! Accountability is a huge subcategory of honesty. Holding yourself accountable is one of the most grown up things you can do. I am constantly telling my five year old nephew to question his actions. I ask how would you feel if (insert loving relative) did that to you? How does it feel when I don’t listen to you? Why do you feel the need to (insert irritating only child tendency)?
These questions are not rhetorical and require a response. I want him to really think about the answers, and I tell him that.
Nonetheless, he is five and these short talks usually end with a tickle, high-five or hug. But I do recognize that adults more than 6x his age need to be handled with the same kid gloves, including me. Accountability is vital, but sometimes arduous. It’s easier to point fingers, embellish an argument in your favor or play victim than to say girl! You don’ fugged up! I am a work in progress. I can be so hard on myself and forget that I’m allowed an occasional lapse.
But when time lessens the pain, I can often laugh at myself. I can write a letter to those I regret hurting or confusing as well as those I gave the power to hurt me, tell them how I should have handled things and hope they receive that energy. I can snigger and smh at the men that drained my spirit and tear ducts. But it takes consistent practice. It takes reflecting; why am I angry? What was the trigger? What can I do better next time? And it takes knowing that you and a loved one are on the same team, so if one of you is hurt by the other’s actions, neither of you are winning. And if you don’t care enough to work through it, take care of yourself and cut the ties, as short or as long as need be. Sometimes silence is all I can give. Sometimes their refusal to accept their part is unacceptable.
Other times though, a sincere apology and a wholehearted attempt to never repeat the offense is necessary, admirable, damn near chic and oh so grown up. And a lot of us need to grow up.
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