week 38: Relationships are like flowers.. (a repost)

Relationships are like flowers, if you do not water them they will not grow. They take constant work and pruning, the moment you decide to sit back and get comfortable is the moment you start to starve your relationship of the vital ingredients it needs to grow and flourish. As a society we’ve almost accepted […]

You water me; I water you. It could all be so simple.. Please show the original blog some love 👉🏾 via Relationships are like flowers.. — Breathe Think Write Release

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week 41: Owning It — a repost + personal commentary

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There are some days that we don’t take a moment to reflect on exactly why people treat us the way that they do. Did we offend them? Did I say something or do something to make people think I am disrespectful? The look on my face often gives people the impression that I am aggravated […]

via @ShashaSelflove 9/11/18 – Owning It — @ShashaSelflove

Word! Accountability is a huge subcategory of honesty. Holding yourself accountable is one of the most grown up things you can do. I am constantly telling my five year old nephew to question his actions. I ask how would you feel if (insert loving relative) did that to you? How does it feel when I don’t listen to you? Why do you feel the need to (insert irritating only child tendency)? 

These questions are not rhetorical and require a response. I want him to really think about the answers, and I tell him that.

Nonetheless, he is five and these short talks usually end with a tickle, high-five or hug.  But I do recognize that adults more than 6x his age need to be handled with the same kid gloves, including me. Accountability is vital, but sometimes arduous. It’s easier to point fingers, embellish an argument in your favor or play victim than to say girl! You don’ fugged up! I am a work in progress. I can be so hard on myself and forget that I’m allowed an occasional lapse.

But when time lessens the pain, I can often laugh at myself. I can write a letter to those I regret hurting or confusing as well as those I gave the power to hurt me, tell them how I should have handled things and hope they receive that energy. I can snigger and smh at the men that drained my spirit and tear ducts. But it takes consistent practice. It takes reflecting; why am I angry? What was the trigger? What can I do better next time? And it takes knowing that you and a loved one are on the same team, so if one of you is hurt by the other’s actions, neither of you are winning. And if you don’t care enough to work through it, take care of yourself and cut the ties, as short or as long as need be. Sometimes silence is all I can give. Sometimes their refusal to accept their part is unacceptable.

Other times though, a sincere apology and a wholehearted attempt to never repeat the offense is necessary, admirable, damn near chic and oh so grown up. And a lot of us need to grow up.

 

 

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week 36: Silence (a repost)

Sometimes we need to take a moment to ourselves to be silent. It’s in this silence where we find our clarity. Being someone who is always on the go at times it can all become so overwhelming. The constant thoughts the constant expelling of energy leaves me feeling exhausted. I take a moment to be […]

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week 33

In order to tap into your true potential, you have to let go of fear. The mind is a powerful tool because it allows you to create your own reality just through thoughtsspeakit and feelings. For example, the simply going back to a memory, you are able to trigger emotions and feelings that correlate with that memory, and with just one thought, you’re able to influence the mood or your day—whether it’s positive or negative. Going back to that moment, you start to think where this feeling arises and you can literally think yourself into a bad or good mood. This just proves that our mind is capable of so much more once we are able to master it. You are constantly creating your reality—subconsciously or consciously—through the frequencies you’re emitting. It’s all about how you respond to your thoughts that will determine what you will attract into your life. If you can master your mind, you are able to tap into your true potential/higher self and live life as an observer rather than someone who is simply responding to his environment.

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Words have power, even the words that stay in your head.
So be mindful.
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week 32: on reflections + shadows

Some people are using you as a filter for their hidden pain and trauma. You mustn’t be everyone’s mirror. –@nataliethebeliever The author goes on to describe this behavior as hiding in the shadows of yours until their shadows become your own. I took this as kinda how America operates, how these trendy “movements” use Black bodies […]

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week 31

I know part of my purpose here is to help. help lead. help with insight. yet— I can’t lead if im not my own leader. I can’t provide insight without discernment. If I’m not my own light, how can I help you find yours? —dáe   This passage makes me think of people following the […]

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C.O.M.B: Your Hair (a repost)

I love this perfect acronym! I am all for personal style expression, but I’m even more for helping a brother or sister realize their ultimate, natural beauty. And the magic within our manes! Check out and subscribe! C.O.M.B: Your Hair — MINDSIGHTCOLLECTIVE I am going to break down the science bit using the acronym C.O.M.B: Coils, […]

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