Firstly, please check out Tremaine’s blog, simplesoulsister.com; she has the amazing knack to pack a punch in so few words that often resonate with me. Thank you, Tremaine.
When we are
truthful with ourselves
about our selves,
we hurt people less.
-“Eureka!”by Tremaine L. Loadholt
If you’ve ever read my blog, you probably know how I feel about self-realization and g-checkin; they are vital for growth of self and impact our relationships with others. Knowing yourself and being honest about it -“flaws” and all- eliminates the risk of someone else telling you who you are. Knowledge of self quiets the ego. And, chances are, those who are quick to jump the “friendship” ship or nitpick every move you make are the ones experiencing the worst internal conflict. They don’t like hearing about your momentum or what changes they could benefit from making and may not divulge much or get too close for fear of losing a good thing. They avoid alone time because they are not the best company. And quiet solitude often stimulates deep thought, right. Uh oh! They are their own worst enemy in this sense. I understand and empathize, but I cannot and will not internalize their problems, especially knowing that, outside of myself, I can only encourage the betterment of another, not a thing more. You just can’t hand out your free therapy/ open heart/thought-provoking conversation/beautiful spirit to anyone who still holds tight to overweight, negative baggage; their hearts are too heavy to welcome anything new, different and good. Your only job is to try – for you, for anyone you love. And do not blame yourself if they’re dismissive as that is merely a reflection of how they feel about themselves.
So if you recognize that you’re a mess and recognize your mess spreads easily onto innocent bystanders, be real + take the time to heal. Please. Accept the ugly parts of evolvement. Recognize necessary fixes. And apologize to those you’ve hurt, including you. Being truthful with yourself will inspire others to do the same. It will cultivate the tightest bonds because those who cannot handle your unfuckwithability and aren’t ready to grow with you will simply fall away.
Thank you again, Tremaine, for these simple words. I hope they reach those who need it.
❤
black|burgundy 
Great Post💕
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Thank you!
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Thank you, Kelley and this right here:
“So if you recognize that you’re a mess and recognize your mess spreads easily onto innocent bystanders, be real + take the time to heal. Please. Accept the ugly parts of evolvement. Recognize necessary fixes. And apologize to those you’ve hurt, including you. Being truthful with yourself will inspire others to do the same.”
Infinite wisdom.
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Thanks so much, Tre! It means a lot.
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You are most welcome. Continue dropping that knowledge. I love it!
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Thanks so much for reading! I’m glad to hear it resonates.
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Amen! Thanks for the pingback wise one 😉
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No, thank YOU
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Oh Kelley! I almost forgot. I wanted you to complete a survey for me (and pass on to anyone else you know that’s between the ages of 22-40, if you’d like). No pressure if you don’t…but you came to mind. I’ll leave the link here before another day passes: https://goo.gl/forms/PlhhgNlHCw2Jfmaa2
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ok for sure! Thanks for thinking of me 😉
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…and gratitude for that comment!
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Ohhhhh um…yes ma’am…thanks for the Cyber Introduction as well. Loving her site!
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Of course! Glad to hear it.
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Muuaaah!!
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“And apologize to those you’ve hurt, including you.” So simple, but, phew! Not easy! This was beautiful 🙂
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Thank you!
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There is this joy in journeying through yourself, your mounds, hills and curves– knowing your sharp corners and narrow edges, and sinking into that knowledge, then going all out to rise above it where need be. I am glad I learnt it early on in life, thanks to writing, thanks to a starving self-esteem that craved illumination and growth. Before, I would only steal moments to reflect but recently, I started documenting the key things i know about myself in a journal of some sort: my flaws, my strengths, my best qualities and worst indulgences; and it so much helps me figure out where I stand, who I am, what I want and what I need. And when I forget, as I am wont to, I quickly revisit the pages and save myself from drowning amidst the clutter of noise that is everywhere around me.
In a world that is unsure of its own magic, we must find our spark and be our own source of illumination.
Thank you for this post! ❤
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Indeed indeed! Beautifully said. Thank you for his spot-on comment.
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